You know what? I have a confession to make. The truth is, the main reason I started writing this blog is because I wanted to share my thoughts, my stories and insights about living life with a positive attitude. The majority of these blogs are based on challenges I’m currently facing or have faced in the past and how I’ve chosen to deal with them.
I’m by no means an expert at living perfectly positive, but what I can say is, I’m an expert at giving continual effort in the direction of living as positively as I’m able at any given moment. My goal is to publish a book based on the blogs of Apozitude and I’d love to go on a book tour. Traveling to book stores and coffee shops all over the place, speaking about the philosophy of Apozitude and how this blog has positively affected my life and others as well.
Over the last few years, as I’ve been writing Apozitude, wait,…. how long have I been writing this blog? OMG!!! I just checked and my 1st blog was published on 8/2/2013. WHOA!!! In 4 months it will be 5 years!!! I just blew my own mind, HAHA!!! So, over the last several years, many different topics have come up in the news and social media that have triggered a question within myself about my responsibility. What is my role in this World as a blogger of positivity? I’ve given a great deal of serious thought multiple times over the years.
The “feel right” answer I come to every single time is “Stay the course”. What’s that mean exactly? It means to keep my focus on the guiding principle of Apozitude. My creed has evolved slightly over the years, but my platform has reliably been based on positivity and expanding awareness regarding personal choice in an attempt to empower individuals to live authentic to themselves.
Whatever “authentic to yourself” may look like to you or be expressed in your life, I accept, because everyone has the right to live their own authenticity. I can’t promise I’ll agree, because nobody ever said we all need to see eye to eye….we just deserve the freedom to be ourselves.
I’VE FIGURED IT OUT!!! I’VE FINALLY FIGURED IT OUT!!!! I know exactly how to tap into that worthy, self-confident feeling that FEELS SO GOOD!!!! I love the feeling of knowing what I know and the feeling of feeling what I feel. I know some of you’ll get it and some of you aren’t quite ready and that’s ok. When you’re ready, you’ll figure out what works for you and of that I’m 100% certain.
For those of you who want to know and are ready, LISTEN UP!!!! What I finally figured out is that the worthy, self-confident feeling comes from paying attention to how you feel and you can control how you feel. As long as you can control how you feel, it’s like everything you ever wanted lines up for you to be delivered to you just as you allow yourself to be in alignment with the vibration of it.
Everything is made up of energy and ALL energy has a vibration. Good feeling things vibrate at a higher frequency, so to be a match to those good feeling things, you’ll want to allow yourself to vibrate at those higher frequencies.
What it boils down to for me is this, I care about how I feel. I want to be happy, therefore I turn away from things that don’t feel good to me and I focus on things that do feel good to me. It’s easy. TRY IT!
Think of it this way, ( I know I’ve said this before, but it’s worthy of repeating ) if you picked up a hot plate and it started to burn your hand, you’d set it down, wouldn’t you? Yes, and as quickly as you could because it was hurting you. Would you turn around and pick it right back up?
NO! You wouldn’t because you didn’t like the way it felt. The exact same thing goes for your emotions! If someone says something that doesn’t feel good to you, do you say it over and over again in your mind? Honestly, sometimes (a lot of the time) we do. We replay hurtful things that people say, over and over again. Not really giving much thought to the fact that we’re hurting ourselves further. If you think about it as a hot plate instead, it kinda helps you let it go and focus on something else that feels better.
I will often shift my focus to something in my immediate proximity that appeals to me and I’ll outwardly acknowledge my appreciation for whatever that good feeling thing is. I’ve found that when I express appreciation for what appeals to me, more of what appeals to me, comes to me.
If you’re reading this and you’re thinking that’s too simple to actually work or that’s ridiculous, then maybe it’s not for you and that’s ok. True authentic happiness isn’t for everyone. Just know when you’re ready, you have everything you need to get everything you ever wanted.
How will you know when you’re ready? Trust me, you’ll know when you know. Begin, if you’d like, by expressing appreciation. You have the power.
Before the sun came up this morning as I laid in bed somewhere between a deep sleep and partially awake, I sleepily wondered what I was going to write about today. My eyelids slowly and heavily fluttered like a contemplative butterfly sunning himself on a beautiful day and the following message came to me,….
In all ways, be gentle with yourself and everyone else. We’re all doing the best we can with what we’ve got.
I’m writing today to offer up a concept. I don’t know if I actually thought up this idea myself or if it was presented to me in some fashion in the past, but it’s something I’ve carried with me for many years now and it’s helped me clarify and simplify my life. So, I’d like to share it with you now to mull over and see if it might be applicable in your life somehow.
Regarding relationships, people often say, it’s 50/50, but I’d have to disagree because I believe in a relationship of any sort we feel our best when we offer our best.
I’ll give you 100% of myself as long as you do the same. I don’t expect your best or my best to be the same every day, because our best will vary from day to day based on a myriad of variables, but picture this: if we’re in a relationship with each other that means we’re in a figurative row boat together and though we may have different ideas about life and our life paths may be different, but one thing is certain and that’s the fact that we’re in this boat together.
In this boat we have a shared goal of getting to shore or where ever it is we’re going and you have my word that I’ll give 100% of myself to reach that goal. What that means is I’ll have both my oars in the water and I’ll be rowing. Since we’re in this boat together, I’ll expect you to be doing the same my friend.
I’ve rowed a boat by myself before with someone else in the boat. Do you know how exhausting that can be? In fact, it felt to me as if they had their oars in the water and just weren’t rowing. What a drag!!!
You don’t have to be an expert at rowing, we all have room for improvement, but if you’re willing to learn, grow, expand and give your best along the way, let’s row this boat ashore baby otherwise, walk the plank.
My take away from this blog has been I love working with open, receptive people who are willing to grow and change and give it 100% all along the way.
There’s a great deal to be said about the tools and practices of living life with a positive attitude, being self-aware and choosing the manner in which you navigate your way through life. I’ve written many blogs and given many talks about how to live a happy life. I’d venture to guess anyone you spoke to who knows me would say I’m a happy fun-loving person, mostly.
I’m able to find joy in the slightest of things, such as the feel of writing with a good pen, the feel of a smoothly sanded bamboo stick (aka as an Apoziwand) , a default smile of someone driving by noticing how cute my dogs are as I’m walking them, watching a flag dance in the wind, looking in awe at all the colors of the big beautiful sky, merging in and out of the flow of traffic with ease (this really happens for me – honest truth), hearing a good beat in a song and much more.
In fact, I’ve wondered about the validity of depression in the past because I’ve always been able to shift my focus and create a better feeling. However, recently I experienced a seemingly uncontrollable spiral downward. I’m not 100% certain what triggered the deluge of tears, but regardless of what I tried, I just couldn’t shake it. I didn’t like the way I felt. I was embarrassed and felt helpless, but you know what I noticed? #1 – I could use some coaching in the art of asking for help. #2 – Even though I didn’t directly ask for help, help was there. In fact, I was surrounded by help and support. After a full night of rest I was able to reflect on the situation and see it in its entirety. The first words I spoke upon reflecting on the flood of support that followed my flood of tears was, “That was amazing”.
I decided to share this blip on my record of happiness because it’s important to note that regardless of the tools and practices we develop to increase and secure our happiness, we must remember that we’re never alone and sometimes the best thing for us is to let go of the reins and allow others to step in and assist us on our journey. That being said, anyone know a good “ask for help” coach?
The secret to winning at life is to find your way to your own personal YES. It doesn’t matter what anyone else thinks, says or does. When it comes to BEING YOU, YOU are the ultimate and final authority. It’s more than just saying YES to yourself though. Ya know? It’s about spending time with yourself discovering what it really means to BE you and then doing whatever it takes to be that ultimate version of yourself, 100%.
What is it you really want? Do yourself a favor and take some time to think about it. Don’t worry over time what you really want will change, because every single one of us is constantly changing and evolving. Just take some time each day to let go of all the limits and barriers and imagine it the way you would like it to be. Investing time in your dreams will not only feel good, it will also create an alignment for those dreams to come true.
YES, I am. YES, I can. YES, I will. YES, I do.
Believing in yourself is the BEST mind trick ever and believe me, that confidence in yourself is kinda sexy.
Recently, I was asked a thought-provoking question about my blog. “If you could only get ONE message out to all of your readers, what would that message be?”
After a short bit of thinking, I came to this conclusion. The #1 most important message would be to live 100% authentic to yourself. This would incorporate all the blogs I’ve written about choice, happiness, passion, following your true bliss and living completely free.
Living true to yourself is saying what you want to stay, doing what YOU want to do, sharing your life with the people you choose. Living true to you is an active choice to live your life on purpose. Loving deeply and looking beyond the small humanness of people and seeing the bigger part of people, seeing the soul. Embracing the bigger part of yourself and allowing the bigger part of others to flow as well. Doesn’t that sound awesome?
I love embracing that part of myself that’s forever playful and curious. I love sharing my child like ways of viewing the world and encountering people. I still play in my food and see imaginary animals and made up creatures in the patterns of wood grain in tables, doors and floors. I love the sense of endless possibilities and limitless creativity. This is where I live, in a world of ANYTHING is possible and it feels amazing.
I was at Trader Joe’s recently and saw one of the friendly clerks and she said, “I haven’t seen you in a while. Where have you been?” All of a sudden I felt like a little kid, like when I used to be greeted with something like the following, “I haven’t seen you in a while, look at how much you’ve grown” except since I’ve been a full grown adult, I can’t remember the last time someone has noted my growth. Which is kinda a bummer, ya know? Cuz I’m still growing.
So, I asked her, “Do I look taller?” She looked at me kinda puzzled and said, “Not really, why? Have you grown?” I said, “I’m always growing, ya know spiritually,…”. She paused to ponder the notion and said, “Yeah I guess we’re still growing I guess. Hopefully, anyway.” I said, “Yup! Look at me I’m spiritually taller” She tilted her head back with laughter as she restated what I had said, “I’m spiritually taller,…. oh that’s great.” To be completely honest with you guys, I’m actually physically shorter. Last time I was measured, my doctor logged 5’7″ even in my chart. I’ve been 5’8″ in the past, and I’ve been hanging on to that height in the 5’7.5″ range, but had to totally come to terms with being shorter when I measured in at 5’7″ even. That’s ok, I’d rather be spiritually taller.