Don’t Believe Me, Listen to Gandhi

YES!!!! Happiness is a choice!!! You know what that means don’t you???
That means YOU have ALL the power. You have complete control of what YOU believe, what YOU think, what YOU talk about, YOUR actions, YOUR habits and YOUR values. Therefore, you have complete control of YOUR destiny.

 

 

WOW!!! Who thought so much “knowing” could come from one little coffee mug with two little words printed on it? This is a MUST HAVE coffee mug for your kitchen, your office, YOUR LIFE.

Happiness Coffee Mug
Happiness Coffee Mug
by ApozitudeStore

© 2017 Angel Zamudio

What Do You Do for Valentine’s Day?

A question posed to me and a few others last week. As with everything, we all had our own opinions. As with everything, there was a wide range of opinions. The bottom line with Valentine’s Day and everything else, You have to do what FEELS best to you.

Who cares what anyone else does? If Valentine’s day is a day to celebrate love, do what feels like love to YOU.

Happy Valentine’s Day my friends!!!

© 2017 Angel Zamudio

You know it when you hear it

When you hear words that feel like they totally encompass your very being, you have to share those words even if you didn’t actually write them. I listened to a Abraham-Hicks YouTube video the other day and you can listen to the full clip here, but here’s what struck me to my core:

“I’m not guiding anyone to anything specific [only] to the feeling of well-being that we inherently ALL are. I want to be for you what I promised you I would be. I want to be an example of someone who always strives for the fullest connection to Source Energy. I want to be a catalyst who will be like a satellite dish that will beam pure positive energy into the atmosphere that surrounds me where ever I am. I want to be an example of one who, while I may not ALWAYS be exactly vibrationally up to speed with who I am, I promise you that I will always be an example of one who knows whether I am there or not because I. Care. About. How. I. Feel. and I’m willing to talk and share about it with anyone who is willing to listen because I want to be the teacher I came here to be.” 

© 2017 Angel Zamudio

What Two Words Changed My Life?

Every. Single. Day. I’m thinking about Apozitude. What can I write? How I can share? Oh this experience would make a great blog,…  getting my energy in alignment with my authentic self, waking up at 4am (sometimes earlier) on the weekends, so I can spend time with myself to better understand myself. Do you know why I do ALL of this? I do it because Apozitude IS ME!!! I want to be the best version of myself #1 because it feels good to feel self love and #2 so I can help to shatter the illusions and misconceptions of the world.

I spend a great deal of my free time typing away at this keyboard. I carefully braid together what feels like the perfect blend of words as I’m listening to ocean waves, European spa music and Reiki healing music to keep my mind clear. Clear of the distractions of the world because this is what FEELS good to ME. I have a strong sense of focus on achieving my goal of expanding awareness of the reality that you can choose happiness. This blog is about how I choose to live my life and helping others to feel empowered to do the same for themselves.

I’ve been in dark places in my life. I know how it feels to be lonely and completely lost. I’ve struggled with internal battles of not feeling worthy of love and kindness. I’ve felt so small and insignificant in the past that I thought the world won’t even miss me if I don’t show up for life tomorrow. I’ve questioned of the Universe, What am I supposed to learn from this pain? I tried to live my life to please everyone else and placed myself last. I’ve hated my life and couldn’t even stand to look at my own face in the mirror. Living a false sense of self and pretending to be someone or something that you’re not is a miserable existence.

My passion, my reason to get up in the morning and what fulfills me at the end of the day is to know I’m doing what I can to help others realize they have a choice. You’re not alone. You can put yourself first. It does matter what you think and how you feel. You’re loved more than you realize and you deserve happiness. Two words that changed my life beginning in my early 20’s and still to this day:

© 2017 Angel Zamudio

Tired of the Heaviness of Current Events?

You may not have noticed, but in case you’ve been living under a rock, I’m here to inform you that there’s been quite a bit of heaviness in our current state of affairs with divisiveness seeming to be the prevailing mood of our greater populace. I’m, by no means, attempting to make light of our situation. I am, however, attempting to shift the focus for a moment towards a broader vision. A vision of love and in a world when there are so many different love languages, wouldn’t it awesome to share a crystal clear message of love accompanied with its own translation.

Check out this adorable Love Robot T-Shirt. You say you don’t know what “Beep beep boop beep” means, well fortunately, this message comes with a translation. It also comes in any style, color or size you’d like. Perfect for anyone you love!!

Share love with the world with your own love shirt, or buy it for that special someone in your life. Valentine’s Day is right around the corner, you could click the link above and be DONE with your Valentine’s Day shopping. This gives you more time for you, so kick back and relax. Apozitude is here to help.

© 2017 Angel Zamudio

Clarification on How to Create Space for Happiness

I wrote a blog a couple of weeks ago about how to create more space in your life for happiness. It began with a series of questions: Have you ever felt not quite yourself? Squirmed with discomfort in your own skin during a conversation or a particular situation? Had a strong emotional reaction to something someone else said or did?

I clarified that you don’t have to answer because we’ve all had these feelings and reactions. We’re all human and all come equipped with emotions and most of the time we allow ourselves to get entangled and imprisoned by these emotions and mix ups of misunderstanding. I know it’s uncomfortable, I’ve been there many times. My intention with that blog and with all my blogs really is to raise awareness. What I’ve come to know with absolute certainty is this,

The circumstances of our lives exist because we allow them to exist.

With this knowledge, as always you have choices. You could; choose to get pissed off and cast blame which will likely result in staying stuck OR you could choose to take an honest look at yourself and accept responsibility for your part and get to the business of moving on.

Not too long ago, I was in a situation that felt like I was stuck with zero power. I couldn’t change the behavior of others, I was continually stressed out and upset and I didn’t feel like I had the power to make the changes that needed to be made. I notified a person in authority of the needed changes and he chose to get pissed off and blame others. The writing was on the wall and I knew what was going to happen because this wasn’t an isolated incidence – nothing was going to change and I’d remain stuck in that stressful and upsetting situation UNLESS,… I accepted responsibility for my part. So, I made a choice and I took myself out of the situation.

It was exhilarating to finally feel free of that overwhelming stress. Even during this time of exhilarating freedom, I experienced dips in my enthusiasm that felt in close proximity to fear. I wondered if I had made the right choice, but I knew in my heart it was right because of how happy I felt. For the moments when taking that leap of faith got scary, I kept reminding myself that fear and faith don’t live in the same house. I’d look at myself in the mirror each day and asked myself, “Do you have faith that you made the right decision?” and I’d say, “Yes” and then I’d say, “Ok, then everything is going to be ok, because faith will lead you to your happiness. Faith and fear don’t live in the same house. ANY time fear knocks on your door and even if it gets through the door, kindly remind your unwanted guest, ‘You’re not welcome here because this is a house where faith lives!’ ” It made me feel so much better. Yeah, I know it sounds a little bit crazy, having out loud conversations with myself, but it really helped me remain calm and certain of myself. Certainty of self is definitely a feeling worthy of such a risk.

When you feel frustrated with a situation, it means you’re focused on the problem and you feel powerless and because you’re so focused on the problem, you can’t even see a solution. It’s like listening to a radio station that plays music you don’t like and just complaining about it. What I’m telling you is, you can take action and make a change.

There are multiple levels of making change, it doesn’t have to be ending the relationship or leaving the whole situation like in my case above, but I assure you the way to gain power in your life is to take a deep breath and then take a few more deep breaths. Take as many deep breaths as you need to feel your emotions subside, so you can step back from the feelings of the problem and evaluate the problem from a fact based position.

A couple of weeks ago when wrapped up to make my closing point, my advice was to focus on a solution and even if the solution you come to places you in a position of approaching someone who you felt had caused you discomfort, if you approached them with the intention of understanding their perspective and intention, with a clear mind and an open heart, you may very well be surprised to find the whole thing was a big misunderstanding. I clarified that I thought it was always a misunderstanding. Then I asked, Are you poised enough to guide the situation towards a solution? I believe with desire, determination and practice, you’ll gain the poise needed to guide any willing participants towards a viable solution.

The point I want to clarify now is one very important word, willing, because believe me when I say, if you’re working with someone who has no desire to take a look at themselves and make needed changes, you might as well hang up your hat and call it quits, because HOLY CAT!!! the unwilling, in my experience, are a stubborn and miserable bunch of folks. Personally, I run with the willing. Only you can decide what’s best for you.

© 2017 Angel Zamudio

Who You Are

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My heart is open and my eyes can see. Infinite love flows to me and through me. When I look at you, I see you with eyes of infinite love. I see you as your authentic self. I see beyond labels, flawed premises and defense mechanisms and I have an infinite love for you.

Strip us to our core of ALL labels and you’ll find that we’re far more alike than we are different.

Some would call our collective beings: humanity, but further stripped of labels than that, we are eternal spiritual beings. This aspect of ourselves is where I choose to focus, where the inherent good in everyone resides. I make this choice because it makes ME feel better to do so and if I can get one person to catch a glimpse of the value in this choice, I’ll take it because that my friend is expansion.

© 2017 Angel Zamudio

Now, THAT Felt GOOD!!!!

It’s so easy to have a positive affect on others and it feels so good too.

The other day as I was helping a young woman check in for her procedure at work, I noticed a happy little skip in her step as she turned to take a seat. I liked it and it made me smile. As she was sitting and I was standing to place her paperwork in the appropriate place, I mimicked her happy little skip. When I turned to return to my desk, we shared a quiet little chuckle as we acknowledged our shared happiness in the moment.

Is it professional for a front desk person in a surgery office to skip around the office? Generally speaking, I’d have to say no, but in that moment one little skip shared between two people will leave a better feeling impression on that young woman than had I maintained a professional demeanor. I’d rather allow myself to be a little bit vulnerable, step outside of what’s “expected” and take a chance on expanding good feelings because in the end I want to be remembered for how I made you feel, not what I did for you.

My personal goal is to leave a little bit of kindness everywhere I go, because happiness is what I choose to leave as my legacy. Joy is the indelible mark I will leave on this world.

© 2017 Angel Zamudio

Want to BE HAPPY NOW?

What’s the NUMBER 1 most sought out achievement? Think about it for a moment,….

Do more people want to be rich and famous or do you think more people want to be doctors and lawyers? I offer these examples simply to acknowledge opposite ends of a spectrum, because there’s “outside the box” careers and then there’s the more traditional ones. I’m not a professional analyst or research person by any means, so this information is merely conjecture. However, what I do know is this, regardless of the most sought out career, the NUMBER 1 most sought achievement is happiness.

No matter where you choose to go, what you choose to do or how to go about it, the bottom line is, you’re making that choice because you believe you’ll feel better when you achieve it. Right? We’ve all said something along the lines of, “If I could just,… then I’ll be happy” or “Oh! I can’t wait until,… then I’ll be happy” . My question then is this, if you can’t wait, then why delay happiness until X is achieved? Be happy NOW. Life is too short to waste one more minute on feeling dissatisfied.

The NUMBER 1 most sought out achievement is right in the palm of your hand and actually it’s even closer, it’s RIGHT there in the thoughts of your mind. When you’re going over something in your mind that bothers you such as, why did this happen? why did that happen? why did he or she say THAT to me? What will happen when,…? Why aren’t they this or that?

STOP! OK? Just stop. Take a breath. Stop and think about how all that speculation makes you feel.

Speculation breeds uncertainty. Uncertainty creates fear and even the smallest amount of fear or doubt is the kryptonite to happiness. So, whether you believe it or not, the fact remains that happiness IS a choice. What are you going to do with YOUR choice? I say, now that you KNOW you can, every chance you get, reach out a grab it!!!

Wait!!! But HOW????

Excellent question my friend!!! Pay attention to yourself. Feel the infinite intelligence of your body and emotions guiding you. When you feel fear or distress caused by the thoughts you’re thinking, your body will give you signs, tighten up and prepare you for that flight or fight mode.

The truth is, there’s no real danger here, you’re simply reliving a stressful situation or speculating a potentially stressful future situation, so instead of perpetuating this feeling, shift your focus to something else. Think about a sitting by babbling brook on a sunny afternoon or whatever helps you feel better. Don’t fall victim to the aimless thoughts of your mind. Stand up for yourself, yes, even with yourself. Be the powerful victor you came here to be. Take control by talking  yourself into a better feeling place.

Remember to be gentle with yourself as you begin the practice of shifting your focus towards the good feeling certainties of your life. I promise with continual letting go of the negative or potential negative and shifting your focus to the positive, you will attain that NUMBER 1 sought out achievement and a beautiful smile will stretch out across your face.

Congratulations! You’re on your way.

© 2017 Angel Zamudio

How to Navigate Through Disagreements

Have you ever been in one of those conversations that seems to be going well and then all of a sudden someone shares something that feels like a punch right in the gut? I know you have, we all have.

What do you do in that situation? It really depends on your comfort level, but here’s what I recommend whenever possible.

Stand up and leave. Plain and simple. Just leave the conversation.

It may seem more complicated than it sounds, but I assure you, I’ve put this technique to the test and it works. Everyone has a right to their own opinion and no two people are going to agree on every single subject, therefore when it is abundantly clear that someone has a completely different opinion than you AND you aren’t  going to change your mind. Simply leave the conversation.

A diplomatic way to do this is to simply state, “Well, it looks like we’ve come to an impasse, so I believe it’s best for us at this point to agree to disagree on this subject and move on. What do you say?” If the person is unable to let it go, that’s when you can easily claim, “Ok, well I’m out” and walk away.

There’s no need for anyone to be offended. You have your opinion and I have mine. I can still love you as a person. I mean do you quit a relationship over the fact that I like pink and you like green? No. Am I offended that you have a different opinion? No, because your opinion has nothing to do with me and everything to do with you.img_434744ef1cf2-1

© 2017 Angel Zamudio