Monthly Archives: November 2015

Thank you for your Support

There’s a grocery store within walking distance of my house and I’ve lived in this house for 13 years. 
Why does this matter? I’ll tell you why.
About six months ago that grocery store changed from an Albertson’s grocery store into a Haggen grocery store. The significance of that is relevant to this blog because it proves a point in the telling of this story. You see my wife and I walk our sweet little (big) puppy, Marbles, past that grocery store fairly regularly because there’s a park on the other side of it and even though it has been a Haggen store for the last 6 months, we STILL call it Albertson’s. 
What’s my point? My point is change takes time. Sure, that store seemingly changed from an Albertson’s to a Haggen over night, but what is it in my mind? It’s still an Albertson’s. 
Why am I so concerned about calling that grocery store by the proper name? I’m not really. The whole reason I’m writing about this is to prove a point. 
It takes time, consistency and patience to create change. It takes unbending faith in a dream to make it come true. It has taken me two and a half years of writing this blog for you and your friends to know about Apozitude. Do you think I started out with over 15,000 views? No, but I wrote every day regardless of the fact that there were only one or two of you out there reading my blog. Now, I have multiple subscribers and even more followers, because I believe in this message I’m willing to do the work it takes  to get it out into the world.
My dream is alive and people are positively affected by the blog I’ve created. I’m infusing the world with Apozitude and thanks to all of you who read it, follow it and share it, you’re supporting my dream. Thank you for being part of making this dream come true.      

 

Harness Your Power

For anyone who might have doubt in any aspect of their lives,… THE. ONLY. connection that truly matters in your life is your connection to yourself. Please listen closely. There’s a piece of something,… someone,… greater than yourself deep within your soul and your connection to that part of you is stronger than any bully, stronger than any doubt and can see you through ANY thing.
When you have faith in THAT part of you everything else works out. Do you believe this energy resides within you? Whether you do or you don’t, it’s there, just waiting for you to believe. What’s holding you back from putting a harness on that power and changing your life for the better? Are you standing in your own way? 

I challenge you today to take an honest look at yourself and ask yourself if you’re being kind to yourself. If you see something you don’t like, quit looking at it and focus on something you do like and just keep doing that until you notice one day you only see good things that you love.  

 

Is Your Dream Bigger than Your Fear?

My dream IS bigger than my fear! My dream has been in my heart and in my soul for a very long time. I’d say WAY longer than my coaching career has been with Beach Body. I feel that I’ve been attracting this opportunity to me over the last, oh let’s just say around 10 years. 
The last decade of my life I’ve been tweaking my goal, making little refinements along the way. I became aware of the idea of having a mission statement for my life about 10 years ago, maybe more, but that doesn’t really matter. What matters is that a dream was created inside of me back then to positively affect the lives of people around me. I wanted my reach to be broader than just my circle of family and friends.
I love being creative and I thought my mission would be to become an artist, well I am an artist. I discovered I have a pretty amazing talent for painting. So, I started working on getting my art into galleries around the Portland, Oregon area, which I did do. I sold quite a few pieces, but it wasn’t creating the affect on people I knew I could have. I know I’m a passionate person. I know my passion creates a very influential vibe and I’ve been told I’m a very inspirational and motivating person. I FEEL IT!!! DEEPLY!! 
When art was not providing the affect I so deeply desired, I shifted my focus towards becoming a inspirational speaker. How the hell do I break into that business??? I wondered. My wife suggested I begin writing a blog. Like everything I try, I jumped in feet first and haven’t looked back. The dream is to create a book from this blog, get it selling and begin the speaking portion of my dream. So, I’ve been diligently plugging along with this blog and all of a sudden the work outs I’ve been doing over the last 15 years bubbles up into a coaching opportunity. 
WHAT??? You think I could be a coach??? My heart literately lifted out of my chest and my face was glowing like a lighthouse. This is it!!! The Beachbody coaching opportunity is the platform for me to launch my rocket into space. I see myself speaking at a Super Saturday meeting,which is a meeting of thousands of Beach Body couches that come together in cities all over the United States and Canada for a training focused meeting. Successes are acknowledged and celebrated. Potential coaches can learn about the opportunity that’s available with this amazing company, Beach Body.  

 
What do I see in my future with this company??? I see working from home on my own schedule. I see freedom. I see passion and living my life on fire. I see expansion of my dreams and loving everyday of my life, working to help others live improved lives. It’s all about health and balance. Healthy living is not just about working out and eating well. It’s about balance and emotional stability. It’s about having faith and reaching for something better than our current situation. Life is about the pursuit of happiness and that is what I’m doing. Pursuing happiness.
I freakin’ love this opportunity!!! I drew this opportunity to myself and I know this is it!!! I have no fear in this department because I know it’s for me because I created it. Why do I want this?? I want this because I KNOW I will be better in the having of it!! I know I have a positive impact on the people I come in contact with and I have every reason to believe that all of my wildest dreams will come true. (Spoken in my best Pedro voice from Napoleon Dynamite). The very first thing I think about when I wake up in the morning is my amazing opportunity. I imagine it exactly the way I would like it to be and then I just have fun working out, posting videos and writing this blog to encourage others. It’s all working out exactly as I’ve imagined. I’m very happy to be here.

Getting Better

Negative work day??? 
That’s an excellent question. We all face them, what have any of you found that works well for you??? 
For me,… this first example is not something I’d recommend, however I will share it because it’s become kind of a running joke at my work. LOL. I was really stressed one day at work not too long ago and I decided i was going to take a break. I thought to myself, I’ll just go eat my morning snack and take some deep breathes, maybe that will help me. It felt as if I was standing right on the edge of a bawling break down, so I went into the kitchen in our office and I reached into the fridge to get my boiled eggs. I took the first one and tapped it on the table to get the peeling process started. Guess what,… it was not a boiled egg. That was the last straw. I was so pissed off, I intended to throw the raw egg in the trash, but just as I stepped back to catapult that egg into the trash the lid shut and the egg went EVERYWHERE!!! I turned away from the huge mess I had just made, opened up the sliding glass door and walked out, tears streaming down my face in frustration. Left the egg, left the door open and walked out into the parking lot crying and shaking my fists at the air. Needless to say not one of my better coping skills and NOT what I’d recommend. 
This next example is more in line with what I do my best to accomplish. Any negative vibes from others, I let it roll off my back, I repeat to myself, I’m only one person. (Breathe) I can only do one thing at a time.(breathe) I’m doing my best. (Breathe) I am happy to help. (breathe) I am a happy person (breathe) I believe in me. (breathe) 
I do my best to positive self talk my way through the entire day. I don’t have any control over how anyone thinks or feels. I create an Apozitude bubble around myself and my Apozitude bubble has magical powers and deflects negative energy off of me and I just keep on smiling. 
Yes, I still get frustrated and upset, but those feeling don’t hang around and plague me ALL DAY like they used to, because I like happy, so I choose to let it go. It can be challenging for sure, but I hold my focus on how I’d like to live my day. This is the only day I’ve got and I want it to be a happy one.      

Getting Better

How do you deal with a negative work day?

That’s an excellent question. We all face them, what have any of you found that works well for you??? 
For me,… this first example is not something I’d recommend, however I will share it because it’s become kind of a running joke at my work. LOL. I was really stressed one day at work not too long ago and I decided i was going to take a break. I thought to myself, I’ll just go eat my morning snack and take some deep breathes, maybe that will help me. It felt as if I was standing right on the edge of a bawling break down, so I went into the kitchen in our office and I reached into the fridge to get my boiled eggs. I took the first one and tapped it on the table to get the peeling process started. Guess what,… it was not a boiled egg. That was the last straw. I was so pissed off, I intended to throw the raw egg in the trash, but just as I stepped back to catapult that egg into the trash the lid shut and the egg went EVERYWHERE!!! I turned away from the huge mess I had just made, opened up the sliding glass door and walked out, tears streaming down my face in frustration. Left the egg, left the door open and walked out into the parking lot crying and shaking my fists at the air. Needless to say not one of my better coping skills and NOT what I’d recommend. 
This next example is more in line with what I do my best to accomplish. Any negative vibes from others, I let it roll off my back, I repeat to myself, I’m only one person. (Breathe) I can only do one thing at a time.(breathe) I’m doing my best. (Breathe) I am happy to help. (breathe) I am a happy person (breathe) I believe in me. (breathe) 
I do my best to positive self talk my way through the entire day. I don’t have any control over how anyone thinks or feels. I create an Apozitude bubble around myself and my Apozitude bubble has magical powers and deflects negative energy off of me and I just keep on smiling. 
Yes, I still get frustrated and upset, but those feeling don’t hang around and plague me ALL DAY like they used to, because I like to be happy, so I choose to let it go. It can be challenging for sure, but I hold my focus. I’d like to live my day focused on the positive because this is the only day I’ve got and I want it to be a happy one.  
      

Just Start Practicing

Since nothing matters to you other than your personal alignment with your individual goals or desires, then that is where our work is. We are not here to debate the rightness or the wrongness of what you, or anyone, chooses. We are not taking sides, for or against, anything. We are here to help you understand that your life can be as wonderful or as horrible as you allow it to be. It all depends upon the thoughts that you practice. And therein lies the basis of anyone’s success: How much do I practice thoughts that bring me joy, and how much do I practice thoughts that bring me pain?
—Abraham
This is a huge part of my day. Practicing thoughts of joy. Sometimes people don’t understand when I don’t want to talk about a situation that bothers me. Sometimes people don’t understand when I walk away from something that doesn’t make me feel good, but perhaps they don’t understand how much I care about being happy. I’m a positive energy person because I actively practice thoughts that bring me joy as much as I possibly can, because I KNOW that what I think about and talk about will certainly come about. 
There has been too much proof in my life and the lives of so many all around me to deny it, therefore I don’t worry or dwell on thoughts, feelings or experiences that bring me anything other than joy. I’m not perfect at it by any means, but I’m practicing every chance I get. 
I simply shift my focus, because I know that if I focus on something that makes me sad or upset, that focused energy will create more of that in my future. I care too much about my happiness and my success to let negative energy hang around very long. 

 

This body ain’t big enough for both of us, Mr. Negative Energy Man, I’m gonna have to request that you high tail it out of my mind. This is where I live and I don’t allow “bring me down” vibes to loiter ’round. So jump up on your horse and get on outta here, before I call the sheriff to haul you out. Go on!!! Git!! 
It’s as easy as pretending your the security guard of your sense of happiness and you have the right to protect it. Are you familiar with the security company called First Response? What an excellent name for this situation. Follow me? I can feel your wheels turning. You got this!!!  

 

Do you?

All throughout your life you will be involved in various things. Somethings you’ll try and you’ll know right away, “this isn’t really my thing”. Your interest will wain and you’ll find yourself making every excuse in the book not to continue participating or you’ll decide to quit. Other things you’ll try and discover, “Oh my goodness, this is the thing for me. I have found my passion.” In this scenario, you’re more likely to find yourself searching for every spare moment you can devote to the task, simply because you love it just that much.  
Now, before we move on we need to expand a bit on the concept of this 4 letter word, quit, for a minute. 
Society in general has a pretty negative association with the word quit. You know we’ve all heard it, “Don’t be a quitter!!!” Well, just as there are two sides to a coin there are also two sides to a quit. 
For example, my son tried for a bit to be an international male model. I don’t know about anyone else, but I believe walking for a Versace Exclusive event in Milan qualifies as success. Garrison went straight to the top in an unheard of rate of speed. Did he love it? No! It wasn’t for him. He tried it and did an exceptional job, but he wasn’t happy. He told me he felt like the camera was sucking out his soul. It was passionless for him. He decided to quit and he told me, “Mom, I feel like a failure” I said,”Well you stop that right now. You’re not failing, you’re simply changing your mind. You gave it your best shot and you learned it’s not for you. You’re changing your direction. That’s not failing. That’s succeeding in life” I’m so proud of him. Is he a failure because he decided to quit? Hell no!!! He is a huge success in his life. Why? Because he decided to follow his heart! He’s putting effort towards his passion. His passion is music. His passion is to live a happy life and to be self reliant. He’s an amazing person and he makes his momma smile and beam with pride everyday. That’s success!  

 
Let’s take a moment now to look at the other side of quit. This is another story all together. 
Take Samuel Pierpont Langley for instance, ever heard of him? Me either until I watched a TED Talk by Simon Sinek on the subject of why do you do what you do. Check it out! Why? Because it directly relates to the subject of this blog and it will inspire you. I won’t go into detail about that talk because Simon does an excellent job of getting that point across.   

 Here’s my point- when you find yourself in the situation where you have found your passion and you’re looking for every single spare minute you can to devote to your passion then you might as well set yourself up for tremendous success. 

How do you do that you may be wondering,…
You start by  believe in yourself with all your heart. Put every positive vibe your little body can muster into that passion and when you believe in you, You will succeed!! Remember- this is very important, the success may not come right now, but you’re planting seeds and you’re talking about all the amazing things that are happening for you and the right people will say yes at the right time. You must begin by saying yes to yourself. Whether you believe you will or if you believe you won’t, you’re right either way. So you might as well put a yes in your mind because you’re putting in the effort. Now! Get out there and stand tall with a solid YES in your mind. You got this!!! I believe in YOU!!!

Don’t Cry Over Spilled Wine

       Sometimes you know it’s time to take a break and you do it. Good for you, especially if you’ve been working hard.

 
     Other times you KNOW it’s time to take a break and you keep pushing through, suddenly you spill red wine. That’s the Universe telling you to take a break.

     Noted! 
     It spilled on the carpet. I didn’t cry. I simply poured another and took a break. 

 

This is My WHY

Why do I do the things I do? 
Why have I spent a large quantity of time over the last 2 and a half years writing a blog about living life with a positive attitude? 
Why do I spend a large quantity of time encouraging people to see their lives with a slightly different perspective? 
Why do I listen to people tell stories about their lives and how they’d like some aspect of it to be better? 
Why have I wanted to be a motivational speaker for the greater part of my adult life? Why did I become a beachbody coach? 
The answer my friend is because I believe I can make a difference. 
In fact I know I can make a difference because I have seen the smiles on peoples faces when they hear a different perspective.
 I have seen faces light up when they hear a glimmer of hope. 
I believe we ALL have the power to make huge change in our lives and I believe some people just need a little bit of encouragement to step up for themselves and make the changes they wish to see in their lives. 
I believe people want to feel better. I believe people want change.
 Maybe they need someone to believe in them.
I AM that someone. 
I know what I know and what I know is that it only takes a pinhole of light to banish the darkness. 
No body goes around looking for a dark switch, we’re all looking for the light. I believe in light. I believe in love and I believe in you because I believe in me. Let’s do this together!!!!