Monthly Archives: November 2016

What’s an Emotional Guidance System?

We’re all born with this amazing capability to guide ourselves towards living the very best versions of ourselves. You see when we come into this world, as babies, we are pure positive energy and we are completely free. Free to do exactly what we want at any given moment. Need to pee? Go for it!!! Need to poop? Why wait, you’re wearing a diaper, grunt it out!!! LOL

I know this seems a little bit ridiculous, but it kinda brings you back to remembering that YOU and everyone else was born completely and utterly free. As we grow we’re taught about limits, boundaries and responsibilities and we cry, kick and scream as toddlers as limits are placed on our free time to play. The expressions of crying and screaming are our emotional guidance system (EGS) alerting us that we don’t want to stop playing. That emotional guidance system (EGS) is still alive inside of you and you know it.

Every time you say, yes when your gut is saying no – you’re denying yourself the opportunity to live as your authentic self. Do you remember what it feels like to be 100% authentic to yourself? All I have to say is once you take a chance on yourself, trust your gut and get a taste of life living authentic to yourself, there’s absolutely no going back. Don’t get me wrong, I’m not saying 100% of the time I’m 100% authentic to myself, but what I am saying is more and more that’s the case and it feels amazing. If you’re interested in living more authentic to you and stepping out from behind a veil of illusion, take a deep breath and read further.

When you begin to feel resistance in your body when someone is asking you to do something, go somewhere or discuss something, pay attention to that resistance that comes up in your body because that is your EGS alerting you to say NO. No, I don’t want to do that. No, I don’t want go there. No, I don’t want to talk about that. You may not know this, so I’m going to tell you. You have a right to the way you feel. You are the only you there is, therefore YOU are the only one who gets to say what is the “right” way for you to feel. The only happy meter you’re obligated to tend is your own.

So ask yourself, does this potential action spark joy in my life? If your answer is not Hell YES, then the answer is HELL NO!!! Do you want to live authentic to you? I don’t know about you, but my answer is, HELL YES!!!

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© 2016 Angel Zamudio

What brings YOU happiness?

There are so many things that I love, a good strong power ballad from the 80’s, a good strong cup of coffee, a big beautiful sky, sun beaming through the window on a sunny Sunday afternoon. Honestly, sun beams ANYTIME!! Good conversation. A good laugh. A good strong hug. Tender moments shared. A soft gentle hug. Moments of clarity and many more, but really what it ALL boils down to is happiness and joy.

Apozitude-happy-bamboo-wand-2016-11-20Recently, I shared my new motto: Does it spark joy? If yes, GO FOR IT!!! I’ve also been saying, If you’re having fun, you must be doing it right and that brings me to the magic Apoziwands. I don’t know why I love bamboo so much, I just know that I do. I don’t care what other people think about how silly it may seem to them because I’m not making magic wands for people who think it’s ridiculous. Magic wands don’t work for people who don’t believe in magic. All I know is making the magic wands makes me happy. The wands are happy about it too.

© 2016 Angel Zamudio

Need Help Staying Positive?

Hi, my name is Angel and I’m the author and illustrator of this blog. I named it Apozitude because I wanted to provide a consistent flow of information about living life with a positive attitude, that being said, I’d like to confirm that I’m not a robot and am only human just like everyone else. There have been times in my life and within this blog when I’ve shared some things that weren’t exactly positive. However, it’s something I take very seriously and have a strong point of intention to maintain my sense of positivity.

I’ve intentionally steered clear of sharing anything remotely political because of how polarizing it is and I feel, in our current situation, sharing any political view would be counterproductive to my whole mission in life and with Apozitude.

I, recently, posted a live video to Facebook entitled “Broadcasting Love” because I was beginning to feel like I was surrounded by hate and I have a very strong aversion to feelings of hate or exclusion. I’ve written about this in the past, but to refresh and retell, my aversion to the expression of hate stems back to when I was a child. My Dad had said, “No” to me for some reason that now I can’t remember, but I wasn’t pleased and I yelled at him, “I hate you!” He quickly responded that he hated me too. I burst into tears and as quickly as he responded, he reached out and grabbed me with his great big daddy bear arms and hugged me. He soothed me and explained, “I don’t really hate you baby girl. I love you very much, but I wanted you to know what it feels like when you say those awful words to someone.”

Needless to say, that experience has had a lasting affect on me. I never for a second doubted my father’s love for me and I’ll always appreciate that valuable lesson because it helps me to maintain an open mind and an open heart to others.

Regardless of who “they” are, we all are one human race and a couple of quotes from one of my favorite authors, Eckhart Tolle, really brings some clarity to the situation.

The primary cause of unhappiness is never the situation but your thoughts about it.

To know yourself as the Being underneath the thinker, the stillness underneath the mental noise, the love and joy underneath the pain, is freedom, salvation, enlightenment.

We all have this Beingness underneath the thinker of ourselves and that is where you find the goodness in everyone and a way to love the person. To love a person doesn’t mean you agree with or support their actions, but it certainly creates space in your heart for love and that feels a whole lot better than having space in your heart for hate.

Have You Missed Me?

It feels like a very long time since I’ve been able to sit down with my faithful keyboard and open up to you guys and we have a whole bunch of catching up to do. So many things have been going on in the last several weeks. It would be difficult to include everything, but what I really want to share is a couple of life changing realizations I’ve had in the last several weeks. I KNOW you have heard these things before, BUT I’m writing about it again because #1 it’s worth repeating, #2 it takes about 10 – 12 times of being exposed to new information before it begins in sink in (if you’re lucky) #3 we are CONSTANTLY exposed to new situations, therefore we are CONSTANTLY changing. What you read/heard/learned here or else where before this moment, will be perceived differently NOW than the last time you were exposed to it because you’ve had different, more clarifying experiences since then.

The #1 thing to remember is LIFE IS SHORT and it goes by so fast. Take me for example, can you believe it’s been almost 2 months since I walked away from my previous job? That seems crazy to me. I knew for quite some time that job was no longer “right” for me, but I stayed because there were a million reasons to do so, but when it came down to the reason to leave, I only needed one reason. That reason was me. I left for my own sense of sanity. I won’t go into details, but I bet you’re wondering if I could go back and make different choices, would I do it? Hell no!! It may seem like a contradictory answer, but look, I love who I am. If I could go back and make different choices, I wouldn’t be the person I am right now. I love the people I’ve met and the experiences I’ve had on this journey. Those people and those experiences shaped me into the person I am and I realize I’m very blessed with a whole bunch of love in my life.

Some might say I’m a very lucky person and you can look at it that way if you want. However, I choose to believe, the love, friendships and happiness I have in my life is a direct result of my mindful intention to draw those positive experiences into my life, but the point of this was that I spent almost the last decade of my life doing the very best that I could to be the best version of myself and there were definitely aspects of it that I loved with my whole heart, but there also was that part of me that knew it wasn’t completely right. Ya know? All I’m trying to say here is, life is too short to be living less than a completely joyful life.

The other thing is STRESS will suck you dry. Since I walked away from my previous job, I’m beginning to realize how unavailable I was in my own life. It’s kinda crazy how different I feel. I have a new lease on life and I’m dedicated to living my life 100% authentic to me and unapologetically balanced. That being said, I’m going to honor myself right now and end this blog because I’ve been working on my computer for most of the day today and I’m ready for some rest.

I’ll close with my new motto, Does it spark joy? If yes, GO FOR IT!!! That’s the only question there needs to be. Right? I missed me too, So glad to be back.

 

© 2016 Angel Zamudio