Hey, I’ve got a question for ya. Do you actually look at yourself in the mirror? I mean, most people check out how they’re presenting themselves to the outside world, but I’m talkin’ about something beyond grooming. Do you really look at yourself? Do you wonder? Do you spend time reflecting with yourself? Do you think about who you are, what value you provide yourself and your community, where you intend to guide yourself, why you’re here or how you fit in the world. When you look in the mirror do you see a person who you shower with love, acceptance and kindness or do you see a person you criticize, judge and pick apart little by little? Maybe you’re somewhere in the middle on the broad spectrum of self-love, but the reason I’m asking is for the purpose of raising awareness. Regardless of where you land on the spectrum of self-love please know the opposite of love is not hate, but indifference. The cool thing about indifference is there’s something you can do about it.
Check it out. So, there you are, listening to the complaints and/or judgements that keep repeating in your head about how you’re not good enough. Are you tired of beating yourself up with your own words? Well, my friend the time has come to STOP the madness of listening to yourself and begin talking to yourself. If you’re the slightest bit interested, take a look at your calendar and mark this day down as the day you decided to step up for yourself. Today is the day you’re going to take notice, when you find yourself listening to harsh or unkind words, you’re going to stop listening yourself and you’re going to start talking to yourself. It may sound like I’m encouraging you to take on the role of “that crazy who walks around talking to himself” but that’s not what I’m talking about here. I’m talking about catching yourself listening to the mindless chatter of your mind, taking an active role inside your mind and start talking to yourself in a kind and loving manner.
I started thinking of myself as a person in training and when I make mistakes, I gently say to myself, “That’s ok. You’re doing your best. Try again. You can do this.” The only difference between a master and a beginner is a master has failed more times than the beginner has ever tried. We tend to be so hard on ourselves, criticizing ourselves in our own minds over and over for not being good enough. By judging and doubting ourselves we’re slowly picking apart the greatest part of ourselves, our own self-worth. Our ability to love ourselves and to treat ourselves with kindness is the best gift we can give to ourselves. You have a choice to set your indifference aside and care enough about yourself to take action. Sometimes though, the act of taking action is more about doing less and spending more time BE-ing. Simply by sitting in silence the soul collects wisdom, because you quiet the incessant thoughts enough to allow spiritual guidance to flow.