There’s a great deal to be said about the tools and practices of living life with a positive attitude, being self-aware and choosing the manner in which you navigate your way through life. I’ve written many blogs and given many talks about how to live a happy life. I’d venture to guess anyone you spoke to who knows me would say I’m a happy fun-loving person, mostly.
I’m able to find joy in the slightest of things, such as the feel of writing with a good pen, the feel of a smoothly sanded bamboo stick (aka as an Apoziwand) , a default smile of someone driving by noticing how cute my dogs are as I’m walking them, watching a flag dance in the wind, looking in awe at all the colors of the big beautiful sky, merging in and out of the flow of traffic with ease (this really happens for me – honest truth), hearing a good beat in a song and much more.
In fact, I’ve wondered about the validity of depression in the past because I’ve always been able to shift my focus and create a better feeling. However, recently I experienced a seemingly uncontrollable spiral downward. I’m not 100% certain what triggered the deluge of tears, but regardless of what I tried, I just couldn’t shake it. I didn’t like the way I felt. I was embarrassed and felt helpless, but you know what I noticed? #1 – I could use some coaching in the art of asking for help. #2 – Even though I didn’t directly ask for help, help was there. In fact, I was surrounded by help and support. After a full night of rest I was able to reflect on the situation and see it in its entirety. The first words I spoke upon reflecting on the flood of support that followed my flood of tears was, “That was amazing”.
I decided to share this blip on my record of happiness because it’s important to note that regardless of the tools and practices we develop to increase and secure our happiness, we must remember that we’re never alone and sometimes the best thing for us is to let go of the reins and allow others to step in and assist us on our journey. That being said, anyone know a good “ask for help” coach?