I was gently reminded last week of the importance of compassionate self talk.
What the heck is that about? You know, those situations when you make an innocent mistake and suddenly you find yourself mentally beating yourself up.
Here’s an example from my life: I was in a hurry to get dinner going because our guests were to arrive soon. Yes, it was years ago, because we all know my lovely wife does ALL the dinner cooking these days. Thank you Keri ;).
Anyway, I needed three eggs for my recipe. I cracked open the 1st egg and dropped the egg in the sink and dropped the shell in the bowl.
Damn it! That was stupid! Oh well, one egg, I got out another egg to make up for the one I put down the sink and cracked it open. Crap! I did it again! I did that three times in a row and I’m not kidding. I stopped for a minute and stood right there in my kitchen. Lifted my head from my focus on the 3 eggs in the sink. Let my arm hang at my sides and relaxed my shoulders and had a one on one compassionate conversation with myself.
Obviously, you’re wound up a bit Angel. Take a moment for yourself to regroup.
I’m just in a hurry, people are coming over and I need to get this started.
Oh sweetie, it’s ok. It will all work out just fine, even if dinner is a bit late, just take a moment. Take a deep breath and think about your guests. Ask yourself this question, would they rather arrive on time and sit right down to eat with a frazzled host or would they rather arrive and wait just a bit for dinner and then sit down to eat with a peaceful host?
It’s so wonderful to be loving and patient with ourselves. We are with ourselves more than anyone else, we might as well be nice to ourselves right?